And do you think there are types of men more likely to want to do this? (Apart from "abusive" lol)
I ask because two of my exes were clearly in retrospect using these techniques on me. The first was doing it very consciously, he worshipped JP and Ben Shapiro and probably watched the OG red pill videos and websites too. I was only 18 so I was totally oblivious and thought he was so amazing and why couldn't I keep his attention?? HAHA. He ended up cheating on me and then coming back and crying and saying "It never happened." He was my first real introduction to gaslighting.
Then the next guy was all sweet and caring and sensitive, he seemed like he was sooo different to the last guy. After a few months he's going full intermittent reinforcement, saying he's so busy and he doesn't have time for me, then coming back around and saying he loves me so much. Eventually he was gaslighting everything I said too. Suddenly revealed after nine months that he watched so much Joe Rogan. I hadn't watched him properly, but I watched him interview JP in front of my ex and he came out with so much trash. I looked at my ex in horror and he was nodding along, like "yeah, he makes some good points."
Okay, so at this point I find FDS and I'm like, OMG, there is some kind of culture war going on against women. These men are all talking to each other and getting these techniques from each other and none of them feel bad about it.
My experience with this started properly in 2015. So I think the red pill was really taking hold by then. But then again, men have always treated women like trash, so is it just the internet that's allowing them all to start sharing ideas and now they all act the same way?
I now see Red Pill rhetoric everywhere. It's so common that people (mainly men) will say it without even really knowing that it's red pill. It's just mainstream. All these typical, irrational, contradictory misogynist attitudes are flowing from men around us and they seem to believe it.
Now, one caveat is that I am a woman in STEM, so maybe it's these nerdy guys that really like the idea of strategising to dominate women and have all the power in relationships.
So, what do you think? Has the red pill mindset overtaken the majority of men? Or just young men? Or nerd guys?