last night this one guy i talk to about social issues from time to time asked me for "booty pics" on snap last night because i posted a photo of me going out. even other guys ik always trying to get me to "hang" with them alone. After countless mistakes i've made when i was 19-20, i realized that men only are nice to you when they find you attractive and want to get in your pants. When they don't find you attractive, they're very cold towards you.these are men i wouldn't consider anyways because they aren't respectful and it's obvious what they want. i've been in too many situations where because i wanted attention i hung out with guys alone and they coerced me into having sex with them and i didn't want to. plus if i said no idk what they would've done to me. Most men genuinely don't want to be your friend like that.
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I'm really sorry about what those guys put you through. That's awful. We expect them to see us as just people, but for some reason they can't?
I cut off a male friend of 10 years off earlier this year because, besides having a history of being porn-sick, he treated me less than steller. He constantly prioritized his "more attractive" female friends over me, and he would sometimes sexualize our interactions. Last time I hung out with him (we were at the mall), i asked him if he could "come with me" to this one store that just opened, and he just like chuckled to himself and made jokes about "cum".
Boy fck off with that sht seriously get your life together.
the last time i had male friends i was 14, after that i still had the believe girls and boys can be friends but the more you grow up you realise that will never happen.. every girl should now that they will get sexualised from the age of 13 and no men is your friend but nobody told me that…
Treat male friends like you would a date: vet the fuck outta them. I've met a couple (IKR? All the men available and I've only met a couple) of good ones.
Every male friend I’ve ever made has eventually tried to sneak in my pants and got asshurt in the attempt. Every. Single. One. Especially any scrotes online, lol, “I just wanna be friends! I just wanna chat!” Sure, fucker. Sure you do. I’m not exaggerating that 100% rate.
The only male friend I have, I met as a child. We grew up together, so our relationship is much more akin to the ones I have with my siblings or cousins than anything else. I don't think it's entirely possible to create this kind of familial bond after you're an adult. Grown men simply don't see us in the same light. Unless they have their own partners (and sometimes that's not enough), they'll see us as potential dating material. I have some male acquaintances from work and school, and they all have their own girlfriends and fiancees. This fact allowed me to get close enough with them to trade memes in groupchats and occasionally hang out as a group, but I'd never go alone with them somewhere (both for my own safety, and for respect for their partners). I simply can never be as unguarded with men as I am with my female friends.
Girl yes, the majority of scrotes out there are not only good relationship or marriage material, but they're also not good friendship material either. I've about had it up to here over so called male friends who only stick around when they feel they can get a crumb of coochie in the near future and then leave you behind when it becomes very clear that you will never drop your panties for them. Nah.
I am only going to befriend women exclusively from now on. Gay men can be incredibly toxic and sexist towards you, too, so I'm not going to consider them an exception as well.