I didn't even have breakfast and my mother is going on about one of my exes I dated and how I fucked up big time because the men I date now are losers. A few years ago, my cousins did this to me too where they helped me break up with him, but then turned around and said that I messed up lol I stopped talking to her since I felt betrayed that someone helped me get out of a bad relationship can go and say those hurtful things.
It's really hard living with these people since they're so contradicting. They're starting to make me believe that I made a mistake. I know I didn't.
I broke up with my ex because he did not care about me, and did the bare minimum to keep me attached.
Today, I had a day planned out with my mother for shopping and lunch all on my dime, but it looks like that won't be happening since I feel really petty. Her "helpful advice" is ass.
After I cancelled plans, she's giving me the silent treatment and won't look me in the eye. Now, she has proceeded to barricade herself in her room with her iPad.
I wish that there was self-help book for mothers so that they don't destroy their daughter's confidence. One thing that I don't like about her is that she encourages me to date any type of men and when they don't work out, she turns it on me. she also thinks that whenever I go out, I'm always on a date when I'm going out alone. My mother secretly, judges me for going on so many dates, while she complains that I'm single and that no man will ever marry me if I don't do ____ , dress like _____, and act like ______.
Her latest attempt was to hook me up with a guy 11 years older than me. He was so unattractive and rude. She kept saying that he had a stable job and that I needed someone mature. All I saw was 🚩 s. I could also see her blaming me when things don't work out.
I honestly don't understand why my mother does this, I think this is a sign of a pick-me.
Unless they were dating him, they have no idea how you felt, or what you picked up on. And of course he's gonna act differently towards your family. A lot of men intentionally impress the family while dehumanizing someone. Maybe just say you aren't interested in their opinions, but would love them to let you know if they sense red flags. Society is really eager to pedestal men, so they probably knew helping you break up with a dbag was good, but can't see that the new guys are also that way yet.
Read the book, "If you had controlling parents" by Dan Neuharth. Their behavior is textbook, and you'll feel a lot more validated after you read it. It explains sooooo much.
You can download a free copy off the internet
They really are! I say this as the daughter of a pick me mother. My mother once asked me if my ex paid for dates and when I responded that he did, she gave out to me and said I shouldn't have let him!
A woman here said her mother screamed at her when she said she didn't give her exbf a BJ 😵💫 pickme mothers are a different breed