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I’m going to start a series on ways to be aware and counteract some common tactics that redpillers use to try to manipulate women and share with you some of my experiences and basically things that I’ve tried and that have worked to either shame them for their behavior or ways that I’ve used their foolishness for my own benefit.
I’m a huge advocate of women being aware of the existence of redpill subs. When a woman asks me for any kind of dating advice, I typically find a way to mention it, tell her about the tactics they commonly advocate and use to get women to sleep with them and to take advantage of women. For some, I show them redpill subs and links. Sometimes, they have a lightbulb alert where they recognize that some of the tactics have been used on them, some of the common RP phrases seem familiar, and they share how they were confused about their feelings and weren’t sure how to respond.
Again, the advice given on this series is derived from a combination of experiences I’ve had dating some highly suspected RP men and just from the things that RP men on reddit and other forums list as their tactics.
Let’s start with number 1:
“You look good in this light”
“You’re pretty for a black/Asian/Hispanic/(insert any minority here) girl”
“You have nice hair...is it real?”
“You have pretty eyes, are they colored contacts”
“Your hair is stunning, but your roots are showing”
“You’re not my type but I can see why some other dudes would be into you”
Basically, a neg is a backhanded compliment, and the aim is to knock off your self confidence/esteem and make you feel less attractive or less valuable, so that you might possibly give him a chance.
Men know that they’re low value, and so for a lot of them, trying to convince a woman that she is low value, is the only way she would consider having sex with them. Or sometimes it’s used as a way to get the girl to be the one to try and prove herself to him.
The most important thing about negs is that you can recognize them. This is because I know that not every woman is witty enough to think of the best comeback on the spot. And so even though a comeback would be the best response, every neg might be slightly different and the context in which it’s said might be different.
If you’re not the witty type, once you recognize that you’re being negged, the best thing to do is to say nothing while staring at him for a few seconds, smile and then walk away. It sounds simple, but since the goal of him negging you was to make you kinda insecure to the point where you accommodate him, acknowledging his neg and then walking away would make his attempt unsuccessful.
If you are the witty type or you do want to say something and can’t think of anything else in that moment, a guy’s height is always a good never-fail target. Men get very insecure about their height. Making any comments about it, will drop their self confidence down a peg and have him try to prove to you that despite his height, he still has some kind of value. Even if he’s already a tall guy, making a comment about how your ex was taller, would knock down a few layers of confidence that he may have been deriving from being relatively tall in the first place.
Here are some other examples of ones I’ve personally used:
“Your short height is so cute!”
“You’re wearing that? You must be confident in your masculinity”
“That’s a great story, would probably be funny if you told it better”
“Oh” accompanied by a slight sad face/frown after he pulled down his pants right before sex. And then say nothing’s wrong when he asks.
“Your hair is cute, I didn’t know men wore haircuts like that”
“I don’t usually date short guys, but for you I’m considering it”
“I love that shirt. It hides your belly very well”
“You’re cute but I bet a beard would make you look more like a man”
...stuff like that. Feel free to adopt any of these into your arsenal for whenever you’re being negged by a guy.
Also, don’t listen to the men that’ll tell you that negging doesn’t work on guys. It’s a lie that’s designed to fool women so that male manipulative tactics have a better chance of working. A lot of men are dumb and very easy to manipulate. They’re very dependent on their self confidence and any hint or suggestion that they may not be as good as they think they are, ultimately makes them start trying to qualify themselves to you. Sort of as an attempt to prove you wrong. Use this to your advantage.
Your seemingly unimpressed attitude will draw him in and this hot guy who had projected confidence would become putty in your hands. Works for me and I know it’ll work for you too.
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