It’s funny how the friends I made when I was a miserable pickme in a new city with no sense of boundaries had no problem with me when I was letting men use and abuse me, ingrained into hookup culture and tried getting into sexwork or had little self esteem in general.
Yet when I discovered FDS, started going to therapy, started developing self respect and boundaries then started speaking up against the bullshit in hookup culture, BDSM, porn etc. they lost their shit and two of them started going into long debates with me, sending me massive novel texts. My best friend at the time got her friend to spam me novel texts, and then she herself sent me multiple voice memos attacking my opinion, twisting my words while claiming that I was being harmful lol.
excuse me. I‘m pointing out how we need to stop letting hookup culture and the patriarchy brainwash us into thinking that sleeping with as many musty crusty men as possible(who can’t even last a min or could be predatory) is ~EMPOWERING~ like i did not feel liberated at all. Oh and me calling out the racism and misogyny in porn and BDSM and how abuse against women is normalized in general totally triggered the hell out of them. The brainwashing is too severe!!
my so called best friend blocked me and yet made burner accounts to watch my IG stories and got her twitter friends to creep on my social media as well and it is disheartening as hell.
How do you deal with “friends” who are willing to be there for you during your bad times yet attack you when you are glowing up and maturing?? How is it that self sobatoging behaviors in women are ignored or even encouraged yet developing high standards, boundaries especially when it comes to men is seen as harmful and an affront??
i am TIRED but also feel so much more at peace cutting off these so called friends. It just feels lonely and scary out here seeing how much women will not only stay stagnant but expect their friends to stay stagnant with them.