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She don't wanna be saved. 🎶 And she'll drag you down. However, a lot of them are trapped and abused and if you really love and care about this person, the best you can do for them is be an anchor. Be there, but at a distance for if/when she snaps out of it and finally wants out.
I have 2 stories about the worst CoolGirls(TM) that I've ever met. The older story, being the newer stories future life. The older one witnessed her mother be abused, eventually escape with kids in tow, play favorites with her younger brother, she internalized it. The younger ones mother is abusive. Both externalize their pain strictly at other women because well, acceptable targets, and mommy issues.
Most recent CoolGirl:
Only 22. Has no girlfriends beyond superficial party friends, for obvious reasons. Thinks vetting for basic physical safety with casual sex partners is mean to men. I learned this when she told me about her new fuck buddy. Dude is older. Married with kids. Allegedly in the middle of a fresh divorce. WiFe Is aBuSiVe of course. I told her yeah he's gonna get abusive with you. She, offended on this strangers behalf, said "hE hAs a ScAr oN HiS FaCe. WhErEs hEr pRoOf?"
Probably in the divorce, dude. She knows what a NiceGuy(TM) is, but not a Mr. Sensitive. They are the same guy. Both dangerous. And statistics aren't feminist propaganda made to hurt mens feelings. He is willingly telling you certain things for a reason. Its okay to critically think around penis. I do not 21 question men about their life story, like she wants to believe about me. They talk, and I listen and observe. It's that simple.
She said "I'm not like you. I don't judge men for their past."
Past. What past? He is still married lol.
She will learn that dick is abundant eventually. She reminds me of Dog Collar Girl. The girl I saw on the FDS subreddit who filmed a tiktok of herself scrubbing a one night stands disgusting sink before leaving, with the caption "why do I do this?" That shit scarred me for life along with Slug Girl and Nest Boy. (Somebody make a comic book or illustration out of these characters, please, lol)
Anyway this is her future
Original CoolGirl(TM):
With the same guy for 15 years. He worked 1 or 2 years in total at the beginning, because he has a highschool football injury 🙄. She gave him threesoms, 2 kids, free housing and drugs. Worked full time the entire relationship. Even while pregnant. Blamed everything on women, literally talked shit about her daughter(1st child) a one year old baby, the second she found out baby #2 is a boy. She said "Shes gonna be manipulative and blame everything on her brother and dad when she grows up" good Lord woman. Why is your baby girl gonna be an asshole and not smart/creative? This attitude did eventually bite her in the ass and I hope she learned from it. She hoarded promotions for male employees, in a customer service setting. She'd hire lackluster bare minimum effort dudes and promote them right at that 6 month mark, and it never failed they would either quit or fail the drug test and get fired. She blocked promotions for female employees who had years of experience under their belt. This cost her her job as eventually nobody wanted to work there, especially not women, who dominate the customer service industry. Her female staff also: loaned her money, gave her rides, watched her kids, and worked her shifts. She has isolated herself.
During these 15 or so years with her leach who plays xbox and smokes weed all day and wont clean, she has been buying him a bottle of booze with her own money, almost every single day, even while 8 months pregnant. He is dying of liver cirrhosis in his mid thirties. She will be widowed with two babies and reality is somewhat smacking her in the face. I hope after he is gone and she has grieved, that she realizes she now has more money. And spends it wisely. She has tenacity and ambition in her, and I hope she finds it again. She is going to have to work really hard at rekindling old friendships with women, and/or making new ones.
If there are any women out there in the void of Google search, wondering "Am I a CoolGirl?"
Please don't isolate yourself for a LV man or for headpats from his Xbox friends. They won't pay your water bill and give you rides when shit hits the fan. They wont watch your kids while you job search after being widowed/dumped/etc. Don't bite the hand that feeds you. This should be common sense.
If you have girlfriends who have your back, cherish them. Don't push them away because you're mad your man ain't shit. You may need that anchor one day, so that you can get your head back out of the water.
Buying him a bottle of booze a day? She is trying to kill him. Even if only subconsciously 😆
Some part of her must know she would be better off if he croaks 🤣
the first cool girl pickme doesn't care about a guy's past until she gets her health fucked up with all the STIs those nasty scrotes will give her...
Also do these men think the same about her past too? Would they not care? Or would they judge her & slut shame her to oblivion...I don't need to spell out the answer, cause it's obvious.
I am so afraid of the dangerous situations CoolGirl #1 will put herself in by disregarding physical safety boundaries. That's the bare minimum. CoolGirl #2 is about to receive the greatest gift of her life once that parasite passes. She will grieve, she will be free, and hopefully, she will refocus all that effort back into herself to level up. Yikes.
#2 is going to have a difficult time unlearning her misogyny. I'm not convinced that any hard time would wake her up. Especially because there will be a line of men waiting for the chance to have her take care of them.