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Can we talk about the nonsense pickme women spew? Yes, male attention is abundant and of low quality, but some of the nonsense these women say is hilarious to me. I was recently away for a couple of months in a country known for its gorgeous beaches and have been meaning to write a post on my observations.
How to get more male attention than your average woman (i.e., by just being a woman):
Men like the easy energy. You have to be the type of woman that follows men with your eyes, makes a lot of eye contact with random men, dresses to show it all off to the male gaze, smiles obviously and in a flirty way, automatically notices and is drawn by men in her vicinity, look like you'd be down for their attention, look like you'd be down to do sexual acts, etc. I'm not saying all that makes anyone easy but it is what it is from the male perspective when most want sex and sex soon with as little effort as possible on their part.
These women won't tell you this but observe them and this is what they're always doing. They'll claim they do nothing to encourage this behaviour and they're just being themselves. However, their attention is claimed by even the most basic guy being around them. If you're naturally unlikely to care all that much or pay that much attention to men, men can tell and will not bother approaching you most of the time.
Basically these types of women do this all the time so the number of men approaching them is greater and there's likely to be at least one who doesn't look like a dud. They will not tell you about all the losers that approach them and instead just prefer to talk about what a catch they are because they can't go anywhere without being harassed but you can see it for yourself. It's a numbers game and they're invested in that attention even if they play it off as something that just happens to them.
I get attention every time I dress up, show more skin than my usual more conservative style, or am in a good mood and smiling to myself a lot without realising. I know that if any of us put this much effort into entertaining male attention like this, we'd see the same results 🙄
I've observed this for years and got bored of the endless conversations initiated by such women about this but I haven't seen such blatant nonsense like I did recently, where a woman I met while travelling would talk endlessly about how much she's being harassed but do all of the above. Inevitably, by the end of the time we were in the same place, she had slept with some basic guy, complained about how he went too far (paraphrasing by me; basically left her in pain so she needed a whole day's rest (details below)), went back to him and then was having her time monopolised by this ugly ass scrote (that she'd entertained the previous day) in the middle of the streets of this lovely area. I had to leave her right there when I told her she should tell him to fuck off if she doesn't want to talk to him. She stayed. And of course she'll claim it's just something that happens when you're beautiful 🙄
It's shocking how social media, particularly Instagram, has become a space where women just do all they can to get male attention. I'm quite shocked by the photos that are posted and the normalization of thirst traps and sexualization. I know women are socialized to seek male attention. I get it. But it's become quite extreme. When I see women sharing such graphic photos, I'm unsettled by it. As a feminist, I certainly do not want to judge or attack women. I just can't fully understand why you would post such scantily clad images of yourself for any strange man to come across and potentially use for his own purposes. I'm not attractive and never share images of myself online for the main reason that I just have never received any positive support or compliments when I did it in the past. I guess women who share these photos like the attention they receive. I can't fault them for it, particularly when women are conditioned to measure their worth by their physical attractiveness. It just makes me sad to see a lot of women reinforcing this stuff.
Also, this may sound petty but to show my point, contrast the above with a man I met in the country a week later who treated me with utmost respect. We spent the day together and everything about him was HV. He never mentioned sex or even anything physical once, took me out to highly rated cafes, bars and a super lovely restaurant, held my hand gently, paid for all the touristic places we entered, paid for the Ubers, had a calm and relaxed manner, had class, did a few thoughtful things that weren't even related to my trip there, and I didn't have to flash my boobs or ass for all that but was dressed conservatively 😂
Again: male attention is abundant and of low value.
Oh my god, reading this made me cringe. Not because of you OP or anything, it's just that I used to act EXACTLY like that. I saw myself as somehow better and more worthy than the "rude slutty untraditional modern women" because I was more appealing to men. Unfortunately, men's attention does jack shit and only creates more problems and burdens. I learned (not the hard way thankfully) that men's attention is poison and brings out the worst in women.
Went too far? It sounds like he might have assaulted her, and she's in denial
What I don't understand is women wanting attention from men they are not interested in. The whole "flirting is a game" thing- why? I hate being flirted with by most men. And I would never want to dance with a man I don't find attractive- just ewww. I see girls letting guys rub all up on them and I feel like we must be from different universes.
As frustrating as it is, I believe it's a self esteem issue. Women like that shouldn't be dating but learning to love themselves.
For too long men have been the loudest voice regarding women, red pillers still feel entitled to our bodies, consent be damned.
Women need to speak up, support women & unfuck all the shit we learned in our formative years. The discussion on consent & saying no has only been recent, some women as you have witnessed still can't do it.
So kind of off point but your post got me thinking about this...I was telling a (female) colleague the other day that I used to love to go out dancing but I stopped because I was always getting mauled by men on the dance floor which made it no longer fun. However I'd realized that I SHOULD go dancing again because I'm no longer the "target audience" of those guys cuz I'm old (not THAT old but much older than your club crowd) our eavesdropping (male) colleague looked at me like I had 2 heads and asked, "don't you go to clubs to dance with OTHER people?" NOPE, some people just like to dance and have no interest in feeling a dick grace their thigh in public! Just funny how people assume that some places are basically designed for getting male attention and only that.
This post reminds me of this quote from Hannah of the Redfem podcast as to why libfems are so eager for the end of all single sex spaces like female only toilets, changing rooms, sports teams, hospital wards in the name of "inclusivity to transwomen":