Idk, my gut is screaming that it's wrong, but I just can't find the words. My gut is also screaming that I hate her life and I don't wanna be the way she has to be. Like I'd rather be authentic, transparent and alone in my personal life.
The whole having "genuine respect" for your man thing. If I viewed a man as so "delicate" that even an honest and not rude correction makes him disrespected "as a man". Meanwhile, I can speak my mind with my girlfriends and they can take it and they don't feel disrespected that easily, all while being people who do not tolerate disrespect.
I may respect my husband externally (if I was socialized into believing that this is how life must be) but internally I'm looking down at him for being so mentally weak and needing coaxing to do his natural responsibilities correctly, meanwhile mothers don't slack on their natural responsibilities just because their performance isn't good enough for others and is always met with criticism instead of praise.
Looking at stuff like this that's supposed make me feel that I have to coax men to do their part in a home, makes sure it never rubs their whittle feelings wrong; it makes me feel like a second parent that I can truly depend on would be a woman more than a man. Motherly instinct, motherly guilt, the urge to give your child what they need, doesn't diminish because you feel small that someone else "corrected you" and "corrected you in your own house", especially when love for your children and true love for spouse should be without ego.
Having your co-parent be a woman who changes diapers as much as you do without needing to be told and who brings in a second income is luxury compared to waking up everyday feeling your partner will only do their role if you make feel good about doing their role.
Looking at stuff like, how can men nod at and praise these types of videos call themselves the rational or logical gender.