Im so done with male doctors

So a while back I got some acute lung problems and had to book a pulmonologist quickly. It ended up being a male doctor, and this whole situation it just proves to me males are massively stunted at expressing care and emotions PROPERLY, since they sure express those damn emotions all the time despite trying to keep up stoic masculinity now anyway this dude opens, then starts rapid firing questions about my medical history which is normal the not normal part is how rapid fire questions will pressure a person to speak faster, so then I started speaking faster, and thus louder in order to have him hear me because I didn't want the phlegm to get in the way of my voice. By the way my voice was also barely above a whisper before I started having to amplify my voice in order to be AUDIBLE. Now he starts saying "I feel like you're yelling, please stop yelling or I'll end the visit. I did not come here to get abused. You're abusing me." EXCUSE ME ABUSE 💀?? I said "I wasn't even yelling" but he just brushed it off and I've been waiting 2 weeks for this appointment so I just gave 30 million sideeyes and eyebrows throughout the rest of the time. Now this dude starts telling me about my chronic smoking which is a problem but then he just started yapping for 20 more minutes and even longer after the breathing test and to sum it all up, I was getting female hysteria'd. Things like "people haven't smoked for this long as young women, you must have some stress, SOMETHING MUST HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU WHEN YOU ARE YOUNGER, oh you are very bright and beautiful, THERE ARE MANY BAD MEN IN THE WORLD but I'm not trying to pry" mf did he just assume SA history on such ridiculous grounds like that is none of his business as a LUNG DOCTOR. He also checked my spine, did a steth check with the back of my shirt lifted (also weird because the xray said I had scoliosis but he didnt have to do all that) while making comments "you have no body fat because you're an athlete, you've been blessed with big lungs broad shoulders but you're skinny down here, oh your breaths were a little shallow but that's probably because there's some old guy in a coat doing this here." YEAH HE KNOWS. Before I go he said "I want you to get better you've got a LOT of issues" This is when I stopped just being like "Ok man ok anything else?" until he stopped because he was NOT stopping and that's probably not even a good way to get him to stop I need to try something else if someone starts acting like this again but the issue was I needed to get cleared urgently so I had to settle for this level of visible irritation only. I said "What? You can see on my file I am on zero psychiatric medications, I don't have anxiety I don't have depression (because he just started mentioning those as possible struggles of mine) and I am living a fully functional life." He said "Well good but we all have depression." 3/10 cop out. Yeah absolutely not. On the way out he just made comments on my appearance by the way, like how I'm probably dehydrated because my lips don't look moisturized and my skin is not looking the best and to brush my teeth because I'm a smoker and it caused yellowing and can cause gum issues?? Oh btw he tried to get me to stick my tongue out too NOT for a depressor check literally just to "see if I have enough iron" I was like you checked my lungs Im good. No. He laughed it off again. His excuse was "I'm not criticizing, I'm just trying to be helpful because I'm a helper." Yeah so we got a lung doctor trying to be a psychiatrist and also a dermatologist at the same time, possibly a dentist (I get normal people can say these things, it's just very obvious he noticed them as part of his aesthetic observation.) What makes him think he's a polymath like that? I also don't see that male gyno anymore because he straight up asked when I lost the card and if I got sa'd so unprompted within the first 20 seconds of the first consult with no vaginismus issues and also told me to become religious while he was literally doing the vaginal check. Cant do this anymore. They think they can get away with such obvious malpractice and diabolical behavior because they're the "professionals." When they have some sort of advantage over you and are aware of it, they'll take it and run with it. Applies in many other settings, too. Like the dmv passport shoot weirdo a few years back who asked my dad to grab my chin and motioned it with his own hand in a really suspicious way to turn me towards the camera at the right angle.. dw guys it's way less stress than the doctor's office I told him hell no I can turn my head myself, then talked shit about him with my dad on the way back. You've most likely also experienced similar things before. I just want to share and possibly discuss, how do you guys assert yourselves in front of scrotes who are UNPROFESSIONAL professionals? I realized I only fear that I gave them too much leeway after, but never if I went too far. I think I need to unlearn some of my restraint