My mom has been going on a rage because her LVM son in a single month has been effing up in many ways. I'm aware my mom has internalized misogyny by a lot of the things she says as pointed out by many people I've talked about this to, including some posts I have discussed on FDS maybe my mom doesn't know any better but the things she says when I was younger hurt me, but now as a grown adult just makes me shake my head.
I am a woman that has essentially been single my entire life because of distrust in men. I attribute it to growing up with chaotic household where my brothers were free to do as they wanted but I was expected to sit down and shut up.
Perhaps I am delusional but I expect my dating life and eventual partner to be someone I can respect and love and have be reciprocal. I want what FDS expects of men, to treat us with respect and for us to exist peacefully.
My mom made a comment how disappointed she is that my brother keeps going around chasing random women to date him. She says "highly educated, high status women" should be chasing him around and "helping" him out. She expects a barb the builder to swoop in and take care of her son. When I pointed out how flawed that line of thinking was because I, as her daughter, wouldn't want to be chasing or dating a man similarly to my brother's problems. I didn't say it that harshly but to not give out details of him, I just said I wouldn't want to be chasing around a man with those kinds of problems. She complained in spanish that I should "get my act together" and find myself a factory worker man for example, that my standards of trying to find a millionaire joe is unrealistic. Except I'm not trying to find a millionaire joe mc chad... having his sh*t together is a bare minimum. I can't sit here and list what I want in a man yet other than someone that isn't going to be a as*hole to me, someone that as soon as I catch a cold won't walk out because his peepee didn't receive enough attention. The fact that even my mom thinks my standards are too high for her daughter in regards to seeking men is... sad.
That's a list I'm still working on. I want to date and not be single either, but that's on me to put it into action, I guess. I don't want to sound like I seek guidance from my mom, she doesn't know any better. I'm so glad for FDS. Without it I would seriously not know what to look out for.