The Audacity that men have on women!

I was out with my friend for drinks last night. I told her all about my dating escapades ever since reopening my online dating apps and buying the subscription, and she shared hers too.

The AUDACITY that men have to pursue women like us is insane!

For context, both of us are working women in prominent fields. We both went to grad school. We’ve never been married (both virgins) and have never been in a relationship lasting over a year. We can literally count the number of exes we’ve had on one hand. We also come from loving families that are still together.

In just the past month of being back on dating apps, I’ve had five men pursue me. For more context, I’m 32, I work full-time, I own a car, and I pay my own bills (same with her). I’ll also be moving out soon.

• The first guy was a divorcee who called me a gold digger over a $7 cup of coffee. 🥴 Instant rejection.

• The second guy had never been in a relationship. He tried to kiss me on the second date and then punished me by ghosting me when I didn’t let him. (FDS was right about that one.)

• The third guy was by far the worst. He turned out to be a drug addict and only confessed after the second date. Later, I found out he had lied about everything. He was fired from his job, dumped by his girlfriend, and leasing out his condo because he couldn’t afford to live there. 🫣

By then, I was so upset and hurt that I decided to be more vigilant and bought the subscription for peace of mind. That night, I had access to the whole database—and Hinge told me there was no one.

Lo and behold, the next morning they told me they had found me “Mr. Right.” It felt too good to be true—and it was. He checked off every item on my list. Two minutes into the conversation, he dropped a huge bomb that derailed all my excitement. He had been sober for 15 years and struggled with depression. He was so good on paper, and I spoke with him for a few days, but ultimately I realized I was dating his potential—not the actual person in front of me. I was attracted to his past and what he used to be, not who he is now.

• The fifth guy had just gotten out of a 10-year relationship last year. According to him, his ex-girlfriend cheated and dumped him three months later. They also share a dog. Honestly, I think the dog is collateral—an open door for her to come back into his life whenever she wants. I’m taking his story with a grain of salt, because let’s be real—women don’t cheat unless they’re unhappy.

Once my subscription ends in two weeks, I’m closing the app and not looking back!

As for my friend:

She was in a 9-month relationship with a guy who wanted to marry her. They even bought furniture together—but he acted like he was just going through the motions, with zero emotional investment.

Then came another guy who had a wife in another country—they were divorcing, but he said he wanted to pursue her anyway. Sir, be serious.

I told her I can’t believe the types of men who think they have a chance with us. Like, how dare you?

We ended the night laughing over how our entire feeds are about declining birth rates and the male loneliness epidemic. I told her I’m open to marriage—but with the kind of men pursuing me, it honestly makes me want to join a nunnery.

Update: I’m fuming and ranting because the delusion is off the charts. Men today seriously believe they have a shot with women like us—and back then, they wouldn’t have even entertained the thought, because they knew they couldn’t measure up.