I was spending my long weekend in one of the European capitals. All places were loaded with tourists, couples in plenty but also bachelor/bachelorettes trips and I legit saw just one couple who had a great energy together. They asked to take their photo and they were such a great match, you could really see they are made for each other. All the rest - unhappy, frowning, making tons of selfies apart !!!!! and with noses glued to screen 95% of the time.
I am not judging, last year it was me but I have never seen it so clearly.
I saw one bachelorette trip, 7 or 8 girls together, future bride was staring into the the invisible void and questioning her life choices. She didn't look even a bit happy.
I saw husbands/boyfriends walking 3 meters apart from their partners, I saw women making selfies or asking their men to take photo of them. No selfie together, no asking strangers to take a photo. I felt weird and depressed that there are so few people happy in relationship.
Is it really so rare or I became bitter single?
"Bitter" would be if you are glad that people are miserable in their relationships.
So many people get in relationships for the sake of having a relationship, not because they actually love and respect each other, or even like each other. It saddens me to see people do that to themselves.
A couple having great energy together is indeed rare. It's like finding a beautiful flowering plant blooming in the middle of a bunch of drab dead grass. Even when it doesn't belong to me, it's still a happy sight. Love to see it.
I wouldn't mind having one of my own as wonderful as that, but if it doesn't happen, it's not the end of the world.
A lot of couples don't spend much quality time together on a regular basis, so they don't build a strong bond. When they holiday together, they feel suffocated and end up fighting or ignoring each other. That could have been what you were seeing if most of them were tourists. You don't sound bitter to me, just observant! These are things we only really notice about others when we're single and not caught up in our own relationships. I believe truly happy relationships are very rare, but they do exist. And they take more effort than most people are willing to put in.
Just backing up your experiences - I did a solo trip to a destination designed for couples - the overwhelming majority of couples I saw behaved in the exact same way as you described. I was particularly taken aback at the number of couples out to dinner and both were sitting in silence and on their phones. The WiFi was patchy at best, so I have no idea what they were looking at.
That aside, when I listen to friend's talk about their relationships, nobody seems particularly happy. I can count on one hand how many of my female friends can actually name one positive thing their partner does.
No, you're not bitter. That's just how it is.
There was an internal survey about marriage conducted in a group my parents used to be members of. Most members seemed to get along well with their spouses, but for the question "if you could return to the past, would you still choose to marry your spouse?" the answers were overwhelmingly "no."
I honestly think it's because women are brainwashed to accept that as normal. Being single rules compared to getting strung along with a addicted narcissist manchild
All the people I know in relationships complain to me about being in them - the men AND women.
Then they do this thing where they bond with each other by being shitty with me after spilling it all, as if I asked them to be buzzkills who hate each other in the first place.