What’s the best way to show up? I’m thinking total indifference / polite, but I’m still mad that he sabotaged what seemed like a promising relationship at month 5 by not showing up for me for 3 weeks (he’d said he was depressed about his weight and wanted space), taking me on a whirlwind trip, and then telling me he didn’t see a future together (serious whiplash). This guy really messed with my head by (for the first 4 months) sending beautiful flowers regularly, buying expensive gifts, extremely nice dates, and then at the end of the day telling me he felt nothing when he saw how hurt I was/crying at what he was saying (just devoid of any empathy). He even had the gall to send flowers with a purely professional note that week because I’d gotten a job offer.
I think he’s bringing my stuff in a suitcase that he might want back (idk why not boxes), so do I need to ask him in or can I tell him to wait outside? Should I look put together or put in zero effort?
I also feel like he’s going to try to say something like “I’ll look back fondly on the time we spent together” and honestly the thought of him saying this also makes me mad.
I know I shouldn’t care since we’re broken up (and good riddance), but I want to torment him in any way possible without looking obvious about it.
Wanted to thank everyone for the advice. He dropped my things at the door, and I left his stuff there too for him to pick up. I haven’t unpacked my stuff yet, but he said I can keep the bag, so he’s not coming back most likely. It wasn’t easy knowing he was coming / here, but at least I didn’t need to interact with him 🥲.