I've been going back and listening to all of manifestelles podcast episodes (they're on Spotify as well as YouTube, and I find that I like listening on Spotify while I run errands or commute) ever since someone recommended her on this website. I really like her episodes, especially now as I've been missing the FDS podcast so much.
I didnt expect this video to be relevant since I've never really felt like someone was trying to steal my man, but it ended up being pretty interesting, here it is.
The overall point of the video was to say that if you're dating a good man you shouldn't ever be worried about someone trying to steal him since a good man would shut down any shady behavior, and not do anything that could give the wrong impression to another woman. I wanted to share an example that actually happened with me yesterday. I wouldn't have even noticed if I hadn't just listened to the episode that morning.
Last night I hung out with my fiance, another couple, and a friend of the couple who we had met once before and I really liked. I had actually been wanting to hang out with her again and was really excited that our friends had invited her to dinner as well. At the end of the night, as we were all leaving, I was in the living room and she and my fiance were in the entryway, and she said she'd like our numbers. My fiance said of course and put my number into her phone. This was such a small, subtle thing, but it made me think of how in her video Elle said that there's no reason for your bf to be friends with your girl friends on Instagram. My fiance giving her my number and not his ensured that any relationship/friendship he has with her goes through me, which makes sense since she and I were the ones that connected more anyway. This is not to say that I am in any way concerned about her acting inappropriately, she seems like a really wonderful person and our mutual friend is also wonderful and I trust her judgement a lot. I don't think it would have been bad for her to have my fiance's number, but it did make me think about how naturally and subtly my fiance drew this boundary, and how through little actions like this he makes me feel totally secure in our relationship, to the point that it's literally never crossed my mind that he could be "stolen" from me. It actually seems so exhausting to be concerned about other women's shady behavior around your partner, and I wanted to let you all know that there are guys out there who won't allow opportunities for shady behavior/will shut it down before it even starts.
I love this for you. ❤️