OLD research article...

I just wanted to share that I very recently came across the work of Jennie Young who has a PHD in rhetoric and language, which she used to decode dating app profiles, the idea being that you weed out the losers before you waste your time on them. She has also tried to game the gamified apps by "burning the haystack to the ground" by blocking all the men who are not suitable so they don't get re-issued. It's called The Burned Haystack Dating Method... there is a Huff Post aritcle that she wrote and a facebook page. It's quite interesting, and makes a lot of sense... She's an engaging read...

Online Dating Was Hell. Then I Tried 1 Thing That Turned Out To Be A Total Game Changer.

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Unimpressed 🤷🏼‍♀

Oct 02, 2023

I've burned through so much hay on OLD I'm not convinced a needle is in there. My time is better spent not looking for it.

NotTheOne

Oct 02, 2023

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So she still hasn't found her life partner.

IDK this kinda sounds like AA for people who are still actively drinking. A place for online daters to get together and vent about the problems they're having with forums, set new intentions, and then go back to the same vice that is causing all of their problems.

I just don't think there are any redeeming qualities in online dating. It's seen as free prostitution by way too many men now.

Unknown member

Oct 02, 2023

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Agreed. I was still unconvinced by the end of the article. I am in my mid-40s and I stopped OLD early this year. I was employing all her tehcniques (without writing a phd about it) and I was getting literally no matches.

"Employing these tricks and others is paying off. We’re suddenly meeting men who are respectful and relationship-minded, and we’re actually going out on good dates." I call BS. If they were such good dates, why didn't they go anywhere? At any rate, the end result is the same. The men on OLD are NOT suited to long-term relationships.

Boadicea

Oct 03, 2023

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I agree that OLD is generally awful, but I am not sure that it's "BS" that some women are going on better dates. On her FB page women are currently claiming to meet better men and are starting relationships with them... It is not possible to know yet if those "good dates" will "go anywhere" as they are at any early stage... I am an optomist and hope that they do work out for them!

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Rara

Oct 02, 2023

I've always been doing it this way. The needles aren't there 😂

Moxie

Oct 02, 2023

I enjoyed her article and I love the approach she takes to camaraderie and trouble shooting in the Facebook group she set up. She does also refer to having been in a 2-year relationship from her revised approach (one that ended in friendship) so I think her take is refreshing even if she isn’t partnered.

Ultimately whilst I’m very skeptical of OLD, I think women need support in this space so I’m here for it.

Boadicea

Oct 03, 2023

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I agree, I am also very skeptical of OLD having been badly burned in my last two failed relationships, but I am also "here for it" as women do need support to help avoid toxic men online, some of whom are dangerous and she discusses some valuable tools for spotting them...