It's actually a really difficult conclusion to come to, but expecting a whole lot of romance from men IS kind of shitty.
And the same goes for women we date.
I think I'd only marry for wealth or for like, prestige.
But like, the dude who dotes on a woman all day and makes her life his isn't really living HIS full life.
I don't think men OR women should ever love another person more than themselves.
I don't believe population collapse theory is correct, so not having a bunch of kids isn't really "selfish." It's probably good for the planet.
I think I'd date a woman if we could be actual partners, and help each other, and I really only want to be with a man if he's really wealthy, but my true friends are other women and myself.
You see I disagree. I believe women were put on this earth with the responsibility of looking out for future generations. We are the closest thing to god itself due to our ability (not our duty) to procreate. If a woman chooses never to do that and be a lesbian, then I wish her a blessed lesbian life. On the other hand, I believe men were put on this earth to serve us to save them from themselves. They have too much idle time which is destructive to them and personally could stand to do a lot more. All the time we don't give them shit to do/errands to run/ability to serve us they spend on wars and porn and video games or what not. We are doing them a favor and act of charity letting them serve us. Idle hands are a devil's workshop, they may as well use it in our best interests.
If a man consistently works to make a woman's life better, his own life will improve as a woman is a net positive in his life. She provides him community, support and family. This doesn't work for women. Too many women have sacrificed themselves to indentured servitude/slavery for men and have nothing to show for but anguish and violence.