There was this guy who pumped and dumped me a while ago.
It fucking shook me.
We had ridden the bus together for about seven years, then I got a divorce, and we reconnected.
We talked deeply for a while, but after we had sex, he just straight up blocked me on shit.
Then he told people I'm easy.
This whole situation sort of fueled me into going online.
Now he's back with endless "sorries," after I lost a ton of weight, btw.
But like, I'm the same person I was a few years ago when you fucked me into the dust and then acted like i was bothering you.
I was the same person 30 pounds ago.
I don't disqualify a man's basic humanity based on weight. I even dated fat dudes because I LIKED them.
Now he's so "sooooorrrrryy," for "how he acted," but won't say what he did.
I started crying when he finally messaged me.
It's worse than love bombing.
There's no way he JUST realized how fucking painful that was for me.
And how was he able to message you? He should have been blocked when he used you and discarded you. He does not get access to you. At all. Ever again. Block him NOW. Do not respond. It is all click bait BS. He saw a pic of you, now wants to hit it again and trust me he will hit and quit it, and you will be used and discarded one more time. Men do not deserve access to us, especially ones who have demonstrated abusive behavior.
He's looking for that sweet validation that he can get you now you are thinner. Most males are a vacuum of insecurity, using and abusing women to feel powerful, worthy, or masculine. Just look at Pornhub. This is a man chasing the high that he could get from a woman seeing him as worthy of sex.
There is definitely a chance he wants to have you as a gf now, since you probably fit the beauty standard now and he could benefit from getting more respect from men and women if you agree to a relationship with him.
Either way, there is nothing good that can come from giving time and emotions to a misogynist.