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In real life, for me personally, I will not go with him on any trips unless he is my husband because stranger danger and all that. If he isn't my husband -- that means I haven't vet him thoroughly enough to allow him to marry me. So no, I don't trust him enough to go on trips with him.
But to answer this particular question -- let's say I do go on that trip with him, so the question is: what part of expenses should I paid for?
Honestly? Nothing.
I struggle with money, couldn't afford such luxury -- and somehow that led to me ended up being fully paid for by whoever's bringing me on the trip -- friends, workmates, teachers, professors, acquaintances. I told them already, repeatedly even, that I couldn't afford those trips so go on without me. But they all insisted and paid for everything.
And it is not like I can pay them back -- so I just thank them sincerely every time. And somehow that keeps happening -- I've never paid for any trips in my life expect the one for my family, once.
So... considering that the man in this question is COURTING me -- it never even cross my mind that I "should" pay certain expenses. Because:
- HE wants ME on this trip.
- HE wants ME to accompany him and enjoy this trip with him.
- HE wants to IMPRESS ME.
- HE wants to WIN my affection.
- HE wants me to reserve some of my time, energy, and attention for him.
So why would I be thinking about "paying" certain expenses? When he can choose NOT to ask me on that trip if he can't afford all of the expenses? Don't people get all the budget and nitty-gritty details planned and ready when they do these type of thing? Sorry I don't know much about trip stuff -- I am just along for the ride -- but the trip bringer usually have it all planned out.
Maybe this is just me -- but being fully paid for on trips is the only way I know -- so I really don't think in terms of "Oh I should pay this part of expenses" because why do I have to pay when HE is the one asking me on that trip? That's rude. Don't ask me out if that's how he wants to treat me, I'd rather stay home.
This is just me though, to each her own. Stay safe.
I hear you on needing to trust a man before going on a trip with him. This part is not to be underestimated, I agree. That said, there is value to travelling with him as a (later) part of the vetting process. Seeing someone in travel mode can be so different to every other day. Do they align with you on how early you need to get to the airport? How much to pack? What activities to do while you’re there - are they the beach-bum-relaxation-type, or the day-trip-every-day-at-6am-type? Can they compromise if you’re of different types? Sometimes the people who are always on the move at home, are the type to find a beach chair and not move for a week, that’s their unwind time. Or visa versa. The point is, you can’t necessarily extrapolate their at-home personality to their travel-mode one. If you want a future that includes travelling, it’s an important layer of vetting to find a partner who eases a potentially stressful experience.