"He is far more attractive than me and I'm afraid to lose him!"
✒️ Firstly, remember the FDS mantra "dick is abundant and low value"
✒️ Secondly, if he asked you out on a date, that means you are attractive to him. Unless you are the one asking him out which we already covered in part one - DO NOT ASK A MAN OUT.
✒️ Thirdly, attractive men are still men - ultimately we will provide more to the relationship down the line and if you end up getting saddled with a lazy jobless useless narcissist manchild who suck the life out of you, that handsome face and good sex won't mean shit.
✒️ Similarly, a High Value handsome man despise 50/50 just like any other HVM. A handsome HVM will woo you the same way a regular-looking HVM - he wants to prove himself to you by making sure you are impressed by his efforts on the date. Do you not want to be spoiled and catered to on a date with a gorgeous man? Going 50/50 will not only damped his excitement towards you, it is also insulting to him - you are showing him that he is not capable of taking care of you to the point that you have to pay for yourself.
✒️ "But why would he go through all of the trouble for me instead of someone who matched his looks?"-- WHO CARES WHY, doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. He wants you, he wants to woo you, he wants to court you -- HE JUST WANTS TO.
✒️ When you waste your time questioning why he pursue you -- you are signaling to him that you think he is making a mistake. That he is wrong for some reason -- for choosing you instead of other people you think is better for him. You are trying to control his feelings, questioning his motives, distrusting his decisions.
✒️ Eventually the reason why he gives up and walk away is not because you "don't match" or "I didn't try hard enough to make him stay" -- it is because your insecurity causes you to distrust him at every steps of the way. SO OF COURSE HE WILL GIVE UP -- how can he love someone who insist so much on doubting his every actions?
✒️ That's why before going back into the dating world, you MUST work on that fixing that chronic insecurity and self-worth ladies.
✒️ Handsome men, tall men, rich men, strong men, powerful men, intelligent men -- they are all MEN. At the very core, they operate the same way. The "why he choose to chase me" doesn't matter -- that's his decision. What you should be focusing on is OBSERVING and VETTING him to ensure he is worth your time and attention.
On the opposite side of that, if he pursue you because he wants to use you:
✒️ If he is a handsome guy and he insist to go 50/50 - that's a glaring sign that you are probably date no #50 and other similarly desperate women have done the same in the past - your "kindness" is nothing new.
✒️ So you go 50/50, he feels a "connection" and seduce you to his bed? Yep, you aren't "the one". He has used that line on countless women and you are just another body to add to the count.
✒️ You will not lose him - you never had him in the first place.
✒️ That's why always OBSERVE and VET regardless of how he looks -- and absolutely not giving leeway just because you are attracted to him. Handsome trash is still trash -- spend enough time around him and that looks ain't gonna mean sh*t down the road.