I was thinking recently about how while emotional commitment is very important to me- I don’t want to waste my resources on fairweather shit that is out there in abundance- marriage is not. I’ve been married, so it would not be a new experience for me, and the idea of planning a wedding again- as incredible of an experience as it was the first time around- that both reflects who we are and pleases guests making sacrifices to be there, it just doesn’t appeal…I want to spend my time and money on other things.
I would want to cohabitate (but with separate spaces to retreat to, to maintain independence, even if it’s just a personal room), and also file whatever paperwork was needed- health care proxy, etc- to ensure our legal protections, and I guess the one thing I would lose is the tax break? I’m not saying I’m against marriage, and if it was super important to my partner I would probably go along with it (but I’m taking that backseat of letting him or her do the planning, I don’t want that role again). But I just don’t feel the pull to do it- unless again, it was a meaningful long term tax break gain.
Am I an outlier in this community? Does anyone else who is FDS feel this way? I’m guessing it may be mostly those who have been married before and do not plan on having children, like myself?