A friend in the dating game brought this up today. Have you ever gone on a first date which was exciting, memorable, and with high effort from the man, only for him to immediately become lazy afterwards? I know I have. At first, he takes great care in getting to know the things you like. The first date reflects that. Whether it be dinner at a classy restaurant, an exclusive event, or an activity based on an interest of yours. The date goes well and he asks to see you again. But suddenly his ideas are really lacking - 'hang out' at his place, go for a walk, have coffee or lunch together. I don't get it. Do these guys only have the effort in them for one good date, then they think the woman is in the bag and stop bothering to impress her? To be clear, my girlfriend is a funny, dynamic HVW who many would describe as high-maintenance. Not a desperate pick-me who seems like she'd settle for anything. She inspires me to level up myself! So, what's the deal? Have you experienced this? And do you think it's a recent phenomena influenced by OLD and the like, or has this scrotery always gone around?
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The problem is that most men are 'acting' to impress a woman. An impressive man is naturally impressive and that doesn't end.