Ladies. We are seeing this constantly, "seemingly HVM." posts and questions. He is not high value until he has consistently proven it to you over a lengthy period of time, through his actions and intentions. Doing the bare minimum of what we expect, showing interest in you, pursuing you, asking you out, paying for dates, being kind and thoughtful, not being corn sick, etc etc. It is our BARE MINIMUM. It does not warrant giving him the title of HVM. Hell you could be dating him for 6 months and still not confidently be able to say that he is. You must vet constantly and literally at the faintest bit of yellow/orange/pink/red flag you see, GO. LEAVE. Block and delete. Stop enabling potential. Stop wasting your time. Stop overlooking the little things. This is our foundation. I'm glad more and more of us are waking up and following FDS, but we must utilize the teachings and ruthlessly apply them to our lives. Go back to the basics. Re read the handbook. Cause a lot of us here are missing the mark. I'll quote a user who posted on the original subreddit, it went something like "If we don't learn to block and delete at the very first sign of disrespect or the first red flag in the beginning stages, how will we possibly be able to leave if/when our long term partner or husband displays a red flag? Or does something worse." If you're already having a hard time letting go of someone you're not even invested in or involved with, how will you be able to protect yourself when you actually love someone, when you live with him. When you have children with him? It'll only get worse with time. Please protect yourselves.