I will just mention what helps me. Then I would love to hear everyone's thoughts. For myself what helps me stay grounded in FDS themed values is morality and character. I care a lot about having intergrity and having good character. That has always helped me when I needed to cut a guy off because I've thought things such as "This is what I want and he can't provide that, so I need to cut him off so I can be in line with my values. Or "This is not how I want to be treated so he needs to be cut off because I want to keep my integrity and self respect." I also think a cost analysis has helped as well. When you understand you would be essentially losing pieces of yourself such as integrity, self-respect, self trust and pride in yourself everytime you go against your beliefs and values, it's harder to put up with nonsense. The cost seems way too high. Thoughts?