What’s up with dudes asking You for money?!?

I agree! I need to remember that. When a guy asks women for help he doesn’t love or respect her. There are so many women who believe in struggle love and that if she helps build a man that when he gets to where he needs to be that she will be able to enjoy the fruits of her labor. Instead, he will split up with her for some woman who would never give him the time of day when he wasn’t sh!t and have the audacity to pretend he did it all himself. She reminds him of his failure(s). I truly believe the more you help them the more they hate your guts. I tried to be a build a barb and it blew up in my face!

Same here lol. My barb the builder relationship was the worst, most manipulative and abusive, and expensive lol relationshit. They see it as emasculating, but they literally asked for it.(mine refused to man up, and used his emasculation as justification to abuse me. So a literal psycho. "I beat you because you house and feed me REE!) So its like a shit test and men who shit test 100% are batterers. Life is full of natural shit tests, no need to be such a drag. Men who ask women, of all people, for help are users and abusers. Luckily a lot of them scatter when they can't use you. Abuse is all about getting what you want and making your own life easier, after all.

They say the most abused is either pregnant women or women who make more money than the man. Either he cheats or feels effeminate and uses abuse to feel more like “he is the man”. Good vetting strategy. I don’t blame you. Men are the real gold diggers.

There's a lot to be said for dating around your pay grade. Even though it doesn't totally weed out the stingy scrotes - some men are cheap even though they have money - it's a good start. If a man makes less money than you do, he's more likely to feel resentful or emasculated. The ones that have something about them might choose not to date women who earn more, so that they can avoid this. The ones that go out of their way to date women who earn more than them are scrotes looking for a woman to provide for them, which is unnatural.

Lmao your name “blockiana” fits

Same. I was the only one budgeting, saving and not having the things I wanted. I discovered that while I was feeding a family of five by meal planning and shopping really carefully, my ex was taking himself out for lunch 2-3 times a week and binning the packed lunches I made because he was the one making the money and didn’t like that I got to spend it all (on school shoes etc). He really resented me. Now my boyfriend takes me out for lunch at lovely places least once a week and my ex gets all the takeaways he wants and lives in a dump because he can’t budget. Meanwhile my saving keep growing.

Yesss 🙌 love this!!