"But what do I do/ how do I act when receiving all these treatments?/ I ended up feeling like I owe him because he is being so nice to me!"
✒️ Here's the big news: growing up, women have been brainwashed so hard by the patriarchy into thinking that when people decide to do nice things to us, we are obligated to pay them back tenfold. Or else we are a selfish, heartless monster.
✒️ This brainwashing is neatly disguised as "moral values: how to be a good person". Men on the other hand, get used to people coddling and treating them nicely without expecting them to do shit.
✒️ This give rise to hoards of people-pleasing pickmes ready to serve self-entitled scrotes who think they are God-given gift to earth. It is an effective system.
✒️ Think back to the last time somebody treated you nicely/ spoiling you with gifts/affection, how do you really feel? Did you feel happy, content and loved, or did you suffocate in anxiety thinking about how to pay all of that back?
✒️ Now flip the script around, a woman decide to do all the nice things to a man - does he get riddled in anxiety thinking about how to pay all of that back, or did he just take and act like he deserve all of that anyway?
✒️ And now lets really look at the modern dating landscape - why in the bloody hell is it "normal" for the men to expect "sexual payment" from you after some stupid dinner that they choose to give to you? And women have to resort to paying their half so that they wouldn't be coerced into sex? Cannot you see just how wrong that is?
✒️ When you decide to do nice things to someone, do you keep tabs on the total amount you give, and demand that the person pay back tenfold? Hopefully not, because you are kind for kindness sake. You just want the person to be happy, and the smile and thank you is enough. Otherwise it gets too awkward right?
✒️ 👆👆👆 That is how a date with a HVM that genuinely likes you will be - he does nice things because he wants you to be happy. He has his budget all prepared, he knows what he is getting into, and he is ready to impress. He wants to make you happy, content and loved - and seeing you smile and your eyes light up, hearing your thanks is all he needs. Even if you decide, after a while that you both aren't compatible - he still wouldn't put the things he paid for above your head. That's just not how kind generous people works.
✒️ As a woman, we all need to relearn what it feels like to be loved and treated nicely, and learn the art of receiving. HVM wants to give, he wants to feel proud for making you smile and happy, he wants to be the man that makes you swoon. The masculine thrive on giving to feminine, and the feminine thrive on receiving.
✒️ And no, you DO NOT owe anybody anything just because they decide they want to be nice to you, give you something. Even if he bought you a damn island, you still don't owe him your body.
✒️ How ridiculous it is to think that's all woman's worth is -- a freakin' 50$ dinner. Once upon a time men go to war for the sake of getting that vag you know -- and yet now, in the modern world where women are suppose to have absolute freedom -- we treat our vag like it is on bargain sale.
✒️ It is not "sexual empowerment" when you still treat yourself like cheap commodity, ladies. If we are talking about true "sexual empowerment" -- the man, metaphorically speaking, should be fighting armies and conquering nations just for the chance to be our bed partners. Empowerment means having the power to choose only the best of the best of the best among men to entertain us, not participating in hookup culture.