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A man who is content keeping you in a noncommittal "situationship" is one that doesn’t care if you’re being wined, dined and dicked down by other men
One mistake I see a lot of my friends making is them being too available for the guy they’re dating and providing the exclusive girlfriend experience free of charge.
At the end of the day, if the guy you want to be with is 100% content not defining the relationship:
1) He’s not that into you
2) He’s thinking “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”
3) He is overly comfortable because you’ve made it clear through your actions that you are monogamous with him, even if you’re not.
Men become monogamous with women they love and women they are not willing to risk losing
✒️ Obviously, keep your social life stacked with shit he’s not apart of.
✒️ Continue to go out without him on the weekends and be honest about it
✒️ For the jugular Plan a girls trip out of town, look hot and GO
And it’s not just dating strategy. It’s life strategy.
We are women, we are intelligent, we are fun and we are gorgeous! I’ve been with my partner for 3 years and in this year alone have been on 5 girls trips having an absolute blast around the country (and this summer Europe aye! But he’s coming with me lol).
For the single ladies: Do NOT rub the fact that you’re still dating in his face. But DO make it clear your social life does not slow down for him.
If I was super into a man who I was regularly dating for 3+ months that didn’t care if I went out and got whisked away by the man of my dreams, I would have to drop him. Call it pride I guess. But that’s unattractive to me.
A man asking a woman to be exclusive is not some sacrifice women should be desperately waiting on. It’s an honor for a woman to accept such a proposition and deny all of her potential suitors to be monogamous with one man.
Disclaimer: This also weeds out overly jealous, controlling men who after a month of dating neg you about going out without him and meeting men. BARF.
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