Most sexual encounters with men are lackluster. They will make out with you for a short time, finger you half-heartedly for a few seconds and then rush to PIV sex. No romance, no buildup, very little foreplay and maybe sometimes some (bad) unenthusiastic oral.
From their perspective, it must be a great deal. They can rush through all of the parts that require actual effort from them, then have a few minutes of PIV sex with a guaranteed orgasm. Of course a blowjob and pornstar-level enthusiasm are expected every time.
An then they are so sex-obsessed and porn-addicted that they want sex all. the. time. They feel entitled to it. They complain about their "dead bedrooms" yet never stop to think that their behavior in the relationship is a huge turn-off and that they are bad in bed.
If they actually put in the effort to sexually satisfy their partner, most men wouldn't want it all the time. Because it would take time and effort! To romance their partners, get them in the mood, spend actual time on foreplay and make sure she cums first before even starting PIV sex.
I agree. They ruin themselves with p*rn because actual good sex is not very interesting to watch sometimes, it's slower and normal and more felt by the people doing it rather than something scenographic, yet in those videos they keep doing more and more extreme things to get more interesting, so there's fast things, weird moves, creepy storylines... Especially lately, it's getting worse and worse. Gosh, if you have ever seen vintage p*rn, although still p*rn, it looks Oscar worthy compared to what they do today, it was so much more..normal? People with body hair? Bodies not completely filled with plastic? Moving normally? Not doing weird things with their voice or face? Sure doing ew stuff and ewewew stories but the scene itself was more normal. But it has evolved into something creepier and creepier. As if all movies were horror movies...it's just ugly.
Anyways, men sucked at sex even in the past but I'm not surprised by how addicted they are today because the sex they have in mind is ugly, chaotic, dumb, just into domination, I'm so turned off by the fact that they aspire to that.
Long term couples should not have sex more than a few times a week, if that.
Modern men are braindead rape bots.
I was coerced into sex the first time, after having said “no” multiple times.
He started yelling at me in the middle of it because I didn’t seem like I was enjoying the sex I’d told him I didn’t want to have…
Love this post. I'm glad you brought up this discussion. 👏
Pfft. Yes they would! Like are we seriously sitting here saying to ourselves that after a great round of sex where you've been completely satisfied, that you telling him he rocked your world would make him want it LESS? What are you smoking? I've had a man cry bc I told him he didn't satisfy me, never the opposite. The more sex my exes and I had, the better it got and the MORE we both craved it to the point all we had to do to get horny WAS LOOK AT EACH OTHER. I once broke up with a man because he refused to make love to me during my period. That's 3 MONTHS of the year of no sex?! Nah, I was on to the next.
I cannot relate to what y'all are saying. I haven't had bad sex since 19 because when I have sex it's focused on me. The goal of sex is my pleasure and my orgasm. A man's pleasure is a byproduct, a reward for good behavior if you will. He isn't putting it inside me until he's made me orgasm AT LEAST once which insures that no matter what sex always ends with me cumming. Trust me, you'd want sex all the time too if it ALWAYS ended with you feeling satisfied. So stop letting men fuck you when they haven't earned it. Like everything in life, anything worth having is worth working for so make that man WORK to get that orgasm.
I know a lot of you have had really bad experiences and that sucks, but if you're sex repulsed due to trauma your advice on this topic is frankly unhelpful.