Most sexual encounters with men are lackluster. They will make out with you for a short time, finger you half-heartedly for a few seconds and then rush to PIV sex. No romance, no buildup, very little foreplay and maybe sometimes some (bad) unenthusiastic oral.
From their perspective, it must be a great deal. They can rush through all of the parts that require actual effort from them, then have a few minutes of PIV sex with a guaranteed orgasm. Of course a blowjob and pornstar-level enthusiasm are expected every time.
An then they are so sex-obsessed and porn-addicted that they want sex all. the. time. They feel entitled to it. They complain about their "dead bedrooms" yet never stop to think that their behavior in the relationship is a huge turn-off and that they are bad in bed.
If they actually put in the effort to sexually satisfy their partner, most men wouldn't want it all the time. Because it would take time and effort! To romance their partners, get them in the mood, spend actual time on foreplay and make sure she cums first before even starting PIV sex.
Pfft. Yes they would! Like are we seriously sitting here saying to ourselves that after a great round of sex where you've been completely satisfied, that you telling him he rocked your world would make him want it LESS? What are you smoking? I've had a man cry bc I told him he didn't satisfy me, never the opposite. The more sex my exes and I had, the better it got and the MORE we both craved it to the point all we had to do to get horny WAS LOOK AT EACH OTHER. I once broke up with a man because he refused to make love to me during my period. That's 3 MONTHS of the year of no sex?! Nah, I was on to the next.
I cannot relate to what y'all are saying. I haven't had bad sex since 19 because when I have sex it's focused on me. The goal of sex is my pleasure and my orgasm. A man's pleasure is a byproduct, a reward for good behavior if you will. He isn't putting it inside me until he's made me orgasm AT LEAST once which insures that no matter what sex always ends with me cumming. Trust me, you'd want sex all the time too if it ALWAYS ended with you feeling satisfied. So stop letting men fuck you when they haven't earned it. Like everything in life, anything worth having is worth working for so make that man WORK to get that orgasm.
I know a lot of you have had really bad experiences and that sucks, but if you're sex repulsed due to trauma your advice on this topic is frankly unhelpful.