I've noticed a trend on instagran where women will share videos of their shared living space, usually it's with a husband or sometimes a boyfriend.
Typically the space is quite girly, lots of pastels, heart shaped pillows, pink kitchenware,etc... but there are always men in the comments trying to make these women feel bad because it's all her style and nothing of her husband's, which is funny because anyone who knows men knows they don't gaf about decor or making their loving space look nice.
Men will say how it's not fair to have their shared living space be all pink and girly but If they had their own place it would be completely empty with a mattress on the floor.
I've been thinking about this alot lately because I've seen it in my personal life, ex bfs complaining about my design choices but providing none of their own, never mind the fact that they won't spend a dime on home decor!
I just don't get why they would complain about their partner making their living space more cozy if they don't even care about decor and interior design.
This is another thing I hate that men do. Like you said, they complain that the home looks more like what their partner wants yet they don’t contribute ideas or help with the decorating. Like you said, they choose not to contribute and choose to complain. It’s all about choice.
Men just like to complain, I’m convinced. Some of them secretly like the look and cosiness of their living space but in true male fashion, they pretend not to care or choose to make fun of their partner’s choices because part of being a man is hating anything feminine.
I agree with the points you made. Any man who denigrates his wife's decorating and refuses to help her make their house a home is a scrote.
However.
I am very picky about my decor and prefer my living space not to be influenced by a man's aesthetics. I would prefer a potential partner not to have strong opinions on decor so he can allow me to take charge. Everything in my living space needs to look exactly the way I want. Maybe it's not an attitude that is conducive to marriage, but I'm in my late 30s, and that's how I feel.
Specifically, my style is clean and minimalistic. I do not want his art, his memorobilia, his shit clogging up my walls and shelves and disturbing the aesthetic "flow" I have carefully cultivated.
But but but but I thought men were such visual creatures?
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Do not ask them for permission. I typically just ordered whatever I wanted and decorated how I wish as if it's my space. It always worked out compared to talking with them about it sadly