Of course the lvm and that guy are bestfriends. Any how. My friend got very drunk the other night and let something happen that she typically never would. She hates hook ups. She had told the guy ahead of time she doesn't enjoy casual intercourse. Even when it feels good in the moment, it comes with emotional turmoil afterward. He seemed to understand that. But as she got more drunk, she said she began teasing him. She said "just the tip". But you know how that goes... he went all the way in and it just happened so fast.
She's blaming herself since once it started, she didn't stop him and said she just let it keep going on for a few mins since she figured he already went all the way in.... I don't think that experience was fully consensual though at all. They both drank, but she was more drunk. And even if she was teasing him sexually, he should have said no about the tip if he couldn't control himself from going all the way... right afterward, he began distancing himself from her. She was very hurt by the ordeal as like me, she's a former rape victim. So sex is a difficult thing for us and to have such a bad experience from someone who didn't really care about her again is devastating.
After she said he should have fucked off with any ideas of intimacy if he knew he wasn't ready, dude blocked her. He had told her he loved her as a person and a lot of bs about how he cared about her mental health before. She reached out to his friend who she thought was also her friend, only to be told women have all the power in sex... i understand the idea that "women are the gatekeepers of sex", but no way in Hell can I agree that women have all the power in sex.
Men love dominating and feeling powerful, that's why most rapists are men and most victims are female. Any how. I'm trying to tell my friend it isn't her fault... that guy knew she didn't want to sleep with someone who wasn't going to continue to pursue her. He then stated after sex that he's not emotionally ready for dating yet. Consent under false pretenses doesn't feel like actual consent. So screw that dude and his friend who defended him.
He blocked her after he said "woah, I think we should just let this go now." After he had told her he loved her, just because she called him out on his bs. So yeah, I don't think he ever truly gave a crap about my friend. Also disgusts me when men suddenly figure out not to chase women with a big age gap until after they've slept with them. Why are some women too young to date, yet not too young to take advantage of to these dudes?