I'm just totally done with the concept of dating/relationships/marriage. Although I have been burned in the past (haven't we all as women?) this isn't coming from a place of hurt as I've had time and space to process and recover from that pain and trauma. It's coming from a place of disinterest as the idea of dating or having a relationship/marriage bores me and also strikes me as totally useless and unappealing- more trouble than it's worth. I've been single for 3 years and I just get happier alone as time goes on. I've truly come to the point where I see marriage as a patriarchal institution for the oppression of women, to control our reproduction and labour, that doesn't benefit us in any way. Sexual desire is biological, sure, but relationships/marriage, in my opinion, are not. Romantic "love" is so overrated. If you believe in it and want it though, by all means go for it, I'm not trying to convince anyone! I've realised that my life is full enough with my career, studies (working towards Masters then PhD) and family as a single mother by choice, expecting my second baby any day now. The existence of sperm donors, and realising that you are capable of raising a child on your own, sure make men seem irrelevant to parenting and reproductive decisions 😂. I know this makes engaging with FDS kind of pointless, why do you need a dating strategy if you're not dating? But this is the only real community of feminists I've been able to find lately and I really appreciate it! So my question is, do any of you feel the same, are you done with dating? Does that mean your days on FDS are over? Where to from here?
I've done a fair bit of engaging with feminist discourse online and watching feminist lectures, but have never read a feminist book!! There are so many out there I don't know where to start. Which book would you recommend as a starter?
I watched the show Maid recommended on here and I absolutely loved it. It was true to my own experience of DV while also making me so sad to see the lack of social / government support for poor women & children in the US. The only reason she went back to him is because of how poorly she was supported to make it on her own!! My heart went out to her because I probably would have done the same. I have to say we have it so much better in Australia when it comes to financial support for single mothers escaping DV. When fleeing DV with a baby and no job I was able to rent a decent house and pay for quality child care so that I could study at university full-time with welfare and subsidies. Sadly the court system here is just as bad in punishing DV victims. Any other recommendations for FDS/feminist aligned shows/movies?