I would love to hear your advice on some recent feelings I’ve been having with keeping up spirits during dating and accepting staying single in definetly (if don’t find man that reaches my standards).
The handbook does a great job breaking down the practical steps on what to do when approaching first date, how to handle conversations and upholding boundaries etc. But one thing that I’ve been very recently struggling with is keeping a positive outlook when it comes to dating men and dealing with my emotions of staying single indefinitely (if they don’t meet my standards and values).
I joined FDS at the end of March and an area I love about myself is my optimism, romantic nature, compassion and passionate spirit. In the past, I used to put this energy towards the men I date (send sweet message, make elegant foods, listen to their frustrations etc.) basically all of the therapy-mommy-banging minus banging (waiting for marriage & only boundary didn’t allow men to cross). I appreciate FDS so much as I have now put all of that “giving” energy towards the women in my life.
But what I am struggling with is that I’m finding my optimism and romantic nature decreasing. Maybe it’s my past naivety and coming to terms with men just don’t give that same care to want to better themselves other men or us.
Maybe I’m scared of becoming cold with their audacity and the bar for them is so sub-par. I am happy with my own company but I have frustration, anger and disappointment of the current men in our generation. Especially more so now with porn and social media adding another platform for misogyny. And that feeling makes it hard to want to even put energy to go out on dates with men (of course ill be vetting and if I notice red flags their gone but I’m having trouble with not wanting to even do that). Even though I want to find that husband perfect for me. I want to be in a complementary partnership with a man and have children with him too.
I’d love to hear all of your advice on HVW ways to work on my outlook. I want to be more resilient and I really don’t want these scrotes to win and feel effected by all of this nonsense.