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So...this is going to be a bit of a rambling post based off of an acquaintance of mine...we'll call him Dave. Dave and I have known each other for about a year via mutual friends and also work. We see each other on a regular basis--Dave likes to talk and he's very friendly, so I've spent quite a bit of time with him.
From what I've managed to piece together from our micro-conversations, in the past 2 years, Dave has: 1) gotten divorced from relatively long marriage with children; 2) got engaged to someone else which was then broken off, unclear circumstances, there was cheating involved supposedly on her part; 3) wants to marry a girl he just met like a month ago--and also had unprotected sex with her and after bought plan B for her (I guess that's nice lmao); and 4) got in some kind of HR dispute with an equally messy woman and her husband who didn't like Dave talking to his wife--Dave actually isn't in the wrong here as far as I can tell, that couple is just a nightmare. But Dave probably should've kept his mouth shut more than he did.
Anyway, all this has just got me thinking about men and their "monkey-branching" from woman to woman, inability to be alone, and, possibly, their attraction to wild women as opposed to stable women. Then it also made me annoyed that men can just wantonly fling themselves into new relationships at any point and get engaged when they want to, married when they want to, and probably to a pretty good catch of a woman, all things considered, even if they perhaps aren't compatible in the long term, while women can spend an entire decade not finding a decent man to even date, let alone marry.
Finally, I'm wondering as to what the real story is for #1 and #2--was it really the wife's fault? Did his fiancée actually cheat on him, or did she break it off and move on and he got upset about it so re-invented the story as "cheating"? In the past, I would've just taken his word for it, but honestly at this point I've heard an abnormal amount of stories from men (4+) about a wife or fiancee cheating on them and so they broke up with them. I just feel like it can't be real? Or are all these guys finding the elusive exciting female narc to date?
And it's got me like....what the actual fork is happening with these messy men???? Why do they propose to someone and get someone else pregnant every other year??? Where are their condoms??? Where is their pre-frontal cortex????
I just had to get this all out because it's been on my mind for weeks.
I welcome your thoughts and insights, Queens!
The men who use the cheating sob story are telling you what THEY did. I find most monkey branching men line up back up women/cheat so that they don’t have to go without sex. They’re also more desperate not to be one than your standard pickme. Men are the ultimate Pickmes.
they don't have to worry about risks likw we do. they're not going to get killed, empregnated, etc. i guess that explains theeir monkey branching.
Men monkey branch through many different women in their lives because society lets them. I'm afraid it's as simple as that. Men can get away with murder as long as he can charm his way out of the court room and can spin a believable case for his own good. As long as male supremacy continues, men can go through many relationships and marriages in his lifetime and everyone would just pat him on the back with, "Boo hoo, poor you, women are evil, amirite?"
This part here though!
Exactly right and it makes me so unbelievably angry the more I think about it too. Because it's true, men really do have a lot more choice in the dating pool to choose from, and if he could just grow tf up and be a man, he could have an amazing marriage, with the white picket fence and multiple children without any problems at all. If anyone's truly struggling, it's definitely us women. We don't have a lot to pick and choose from; for every one HVM we see out in the wild, there's 20 more LVM right behind him that we got to deal with. Probably even more. Meanwhile, men can have 10 different women and while like 1 or 2 of them may be LVM and treat him badly, he can have a decent relationship with at least 8 of them, and out of that 8, around 4-5 of them would be elated if he proposed to them because women for the most part desire lifelong commitment and monogamy.
My thoughts with the "she cheated on me" men are that it's pure projection, or they emotionally abandoned her long ago and she's finally given up waiting for him. She might have simply moved on, but if he believes he owns her time an affections, anyone she is with in the future is an affair partner.
Men are emotionally immature and needy - so it's all they understand. They want to be needed, so they will find women who do or act like they need a man
You will never really know the true story about this man, but if it seems messy it probably is and you should avoid him.